Our Deepest Fear

In our post last week, we talked about mental free space so my husband and I made it a priority to spend more time talking to each other and meditating. One of the outcomes of our talks might seem a bit disturbing at first:

After my husband lost his job he is entitled to receive benefits from the national unemployment insurance. For two years, you receive 80% of your last salary. Sounds neat, right? And yet we play with the thought to not sign up for it. Sounds crazy, right?

Why on earth would a remotely sane person who also has to care for a young family, do that. Well, receiving the benefits doesn’t just happen like that. It comes with a lot of conditions and restrictions. Which is fair, the main purpose of the insurance is to get you back in the working world so you need to show that you are applying for jobs, attend courses and meetings with your assigned coach. For us, it makes us feel dependent and unfree. Being free is one of the values we defined to be core to us.

We are not immune against fear, the fear of running out of money, of not being able to make enough money on our own and so on. The question is whether giving in to the fear is going to better our life or just keep it on the same track as it was. Where we not given this chance to change the course of our life?

I came across this powerful quote by Marianne Williamson which all of a sudden makes a lot of sense to us: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”

Why should we not be able to make a decent living by doing what we enjoy most (which is writing for me and designing for Renz)? So far, whenever we took up a project we received very positive feedback. Jobs were floating in without us even having a website or taking marketing initiatives. Why do we not chose to focus on it 100%?

Dr. Wayne Dyer who was an internationally renowned author and speaker in the field of self-development: “Everything you do is based on the choices you make. It’s not your parents, your past relationships, your job, the economy, the weather, an argument or your age that is to blame. You and only you are responsible for every decision and choice you make. Period.”

It feels like we stand at the point where we need to take the decision to cut the safety cord … and jump in order to whole heartedly pursue our passion. Scary? Yes! But as another wise man (Nelson Mandela) once said: “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. It always feels impossible until it is done.”

Many people might think our choices are irresponsible, especially when you have two young kids. Our approach is more that we want to be an example to our children and show them it is worth living for your dream rather than settling for a compromise which in the end is usually just that: a compromise. We want to be the best version of ourselves we can possibly be, be it as entrepreneurs, as partners, friends and most importantly parents. 

If you are not happy with the life you are leading take the time to sit back, reflect on your priorities, take over the steering wheel of your life again and make changes if necessary. Then – to quote again Wayne Dyer – “There is one grand lie – that we are limited. The only limits we have are the limits we believe.”

Go out and aim high – like really high! Your Raasta Family


P.S. The pictures in the post are from our trip to Iceland in April/Mai 2016